When the parents say "We are getting divorced"
by Alexandra Georgieva, 17 years old
The
family is the major constrictive element and support in human life. The
parents and the relations between them play the main parts in it. What
would a child do is very subjective and relative. It depends on its age
and its life so far.
I'm an experienced girl. I will tell you what I would do and what I actually
did when my parents told me "We are getting divorced".
1 wasn't the least bit surprised. I expected it; moreover, I was worried
their marriage lasted for so long. My mother has always shared everything
with me. Thanks to this I was prepared for that moment. Firstly, I myself
have told her to divorce earlier. The word "parents"^ means
nothing to me. It expresses a generalization; two people connected with
each other, people who have a stable family, children and who love each
other. I have a mother and a father however I have no parents! May be
I put another meaning in this word. Still, let me get back to my story.
1 love my mother very much. I rarely saw my father then, just as rarely
as I do now. When they happened to be both at home it was unbearable -screaming,
beating, quarrels and rows. 1 was feeling sorry for my mother because
she was weak, helpless, vulnerable and hurt. Still, she endured everything
because of me. She didn't want to deprive me of fatherly love and care.
Even then I understood her while I started to understand my father just
recently, but it is a different story. He told me they were getting divorced.
At the back of my mind I thought I already knew about it and talking was
of no use but I was amused of him trying to explain it to me. I was well
aware of the situation. You can say that after all these lies, quarrels,
beating and so on I was happy this hell would finally be over. Even now
I don't feel sorry about it. 1 have always been proud that I understood
my mother, helped and supported her in that difficult moment. I was with
her even when he chased us out on the street in the middle of the night.
Anyway, I consider I acted maturely in these moments although 1 was only
12-13 years old. Like the proverb says: "Every coin has two sides".
Stoyan of my class reminded me this. And I would like to add "Always
look for and get the positive message of even the most negative experience
and situation." I gained more freedom, independence, courage, and
experience. Although I was confused then I'm feeling perfect now. My mother
loves another man and we both are very happy now!
Isn't it wonderful? Enjoy life and don't worry if sometimes you encounter
problems. This is life! Can you blame it for being what it is?
